Top 3 Most Important Qualities of a Healthy Relationship
1. Truth and Honesty
In my opinion, the most important quality of a healthy relationship is truth and honesty. There is no game playing in a healthy relationship. And, I happen to firmly believe that you cannot expect your partner to be honest with you if you are not honest with them.
The ability to communicate with ease is the next most important quality of a healthy relationship. Feeling free to communicate with your partner without fear of judgment or criticism is extremely important, especially when sharing information that makes you feel vulnerable.
Remember, it will be impossible for any two individuals to agree on absolutely every issue. But it is important that you be willing to attentively listen to your partner even if you don’t agree with them. It is helpful to try to see the situation from their point of view. This will help you understand where they’re coming from even if you don’t agree. On the other hand, it is important that you are given the same consideration.
If one or both partners feel it is important to win an argument, it is detrimental to the relationship.
Don’t ever refuse to discuss something that is important to your partner. You want them to know that, even in the midst of a disagreement, you genuinely care about their feelings and opinions.
In a healthy relationship both partners not only feel comfortable in their ability to share their inner most thoughts and feelings, they actually do it. They let each other into their inner emotional world, making their thoughts and feelings available to the other.
3. Taking Responsibility
The third most important quality is recognizing that every individual is responsible for their actions and their own happiness. It will destroy a relationship if one partner blames the other when things don’t go the way they desire and/or expect. It will ruin a relationship if one partner depends on the other to make them feel fulfilled and make the other person responsible for making them happy.
Other Important Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship
Partners who work to have a healthy relationship will have taken the time to learn a lot of personal details about each other. For instance, if your partner likes to read you will know their favorite author and book; also, their favorite movie, favorite musician and album, their favorite restaurant and food, etc. You will know who their close childhood friends were; their most embarrassing things that happened in their childhood and the thing they are most proud of that happened in their childhood.
Partners will support each other in what they want to accomplish in life, including career goals and/or hobbies. They will celebrate the victories of their partner, even if they do not participate in the accomplishment. However, it is important to have some common interests. This will make it easier for the two of you to spend quality time with each other.
Partners will not attempt to try to change each other. On the other hand, it is important to recognize the fact that the majority of humans grow and change as they mature. As a person in a relationship, it is important to accept the growth and change in your partner.
As a partner, you are willing to make compromises. Your partner should never ask you to do or say anything that would cause you to feel you weren’t being true to how you are as a person. However, they might ask you to do some things you would prefer not to do. It isn’t necessary that you say “yes” to everything, but you do want to agree sometimes because of your love and concern for your partner’s feelings. As an example they might ask you to attend a family gathering with them, perhaps on a holiday. You might have other things you want to do, but because you know it’s important to your partner, you might decide that doing something that’s important to them is preferable to doing what you had in mind.
Even More Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship
Partners don’t make important decisions that will affect the relationship without first talking it over with their partner.
Partners genuinely respect each other and don’t engage in words or actions that express disrespect.
Partners trust each other when it comes to affairs of the heart and in financial matters.
Partners find time to spend together because they genuinely enjoy each other’s company. It might be time planning or engaging in an adventure together, having a quiet dinner together, or time spent simply letting the other know how much they are appreciated.
When partners feel a need to be comforted, they find it easy to turn their partner instead of shutting them out.
It is easy for partners to express physical affection for each other, including sex (but not exclusively sex). Hugging, kissing and gentle caresses are also important.
If you want to increase your chances of having a truly healthy relationship, your first priority should be to make sure you possess the qualities that a genuinely nice person would want in a partner. If you believe you fall short in this area, then don’t expect to attract the partner of your dreams… it won’t happen!
The second thing to keep in mind is that true love is unconditional and it is what remains after the “honeymoon effect” wears off (and it always does). So make sure your relationship is based on a lot more than physical attraction and great sex.